Re: I cannot find "personalize" under "settings".
Download one of many launchers available from the
Play Store. After it has been installed, the next time you hit the home button a message at the bottom of the screen will pop up asking which launcher you want to use. In your case it will list HTC Sense or what ever other launcher(s) you have installed. Tap on "Always" and then select the launcher you want to use for the time being.