Ok, after 4 days and a ton of forum posts here is what I ended up with:
Droid Bionic - Verizon
Charter email
Outlook 07
Incoming server :
Pop.charter.net
Username:
username@chartermi.net (mine is a old account)
Password:
same as you would use to get mail anywhere else
Advanced settings:
Port: 110
Use secure connection:
unchecked
Use secure password (TLS):
never
Authentication:
password
Verify Certificate:
unchecked
Outgoing server:
smtp.charterinternet.net
Username:
username@chartermi.net (mine is a old account)
Password:
same as you would use to get mail anywhere else
Port:
25
Use secure connection:
unchecked
Use secure password (TLS):
never
Authentication:
none
Verify Certificate:
unchecked
This eliminated the error Outlook would give about being in use somewhere else. I can send and receive on my phone and through outlook without any errors either place. If the phone gets the email first, I will still get the email through Outlook. If Ouotlook gets it first, I will not get it on my phone without forwarding it to my phone...but at least it works.
Now for those of you that this doesn't work here is the way I came up with finding settings that got me this far. I tried several different settings that you have all read in different threads on different forums. When I found one that didn't lock up Outlook on the incoming side, (checking for mail) I stuck with that and only changed the outgoing settings till I found one that worked. I tested the incoming side both ways to make sure I could get mail at either place and once it worked I left it alone. Then I went back through all the threads and all the different settings till I found one that would work on the outgoing side. I combined the two to make something different than I had found at any one place but at least it works. you may have to go through the same process. Not sure why Charter can't get into this century, you would think as big as they are and as big as the phone companies are they would talk, come up with a format that works, make it universal and get on with life. But wait, they are all to busy making your bill so you can't afford it. Gotta love it! Hope this helps... Good luck!