How do I do away with the direct contacts now listed as options when I hit "share?" And how do I change that menu back to a list where I can see more options at once?
There's not much you can do to those.... they aren't customizable, even on the OEMs that alter the feature. The enhanced share dialogs were one of the bigger new features in 6.0.
I remember seeing some apps in the play store a while back that allowed some tweaking... but I haven't seen or heard of anything recently.