I added a new phone number to one of my contacts yesterday morning... I checked my device yesterday afternoon and it was updated... I also manually ran sync from my device and it ran for the full account, including calendar and contacts without an issue in about a minute.
it seems its my account/phone thats has the problem since on one else is having this exact issue right now so the wait and see part is over for me, but for the life of me do I contact vzw..htc...google? lol