all the androids these days are big , a few years ago there were some small ones but now i cant find any. do i have to go with apple or can anyone suggest any models?
There are alas no new small Androids of high spec and performance like the current SE, and certainly not like the original SE. As some members could confirm, you are not alone in lamenting this.
There are a few small and very small Androids, but they do not pretend to be high-end devices.
Probably one of the most similar to the SE is the Pixel 4a. It is a budget phone, like the SE and has a smaller screen than most Android phones. People who have them tend to like them and Pixel phones are Google's version of the iPhone.