Welcome to the forum. Without knowing what phone you have I can only guess, but along with the audio you should also see some kind of notification on the phone. YOU control which sounds are heard by setting those in the individual apps through their settings, and on the phone using Notifications. Also, you won't normally get a sound when you send something.
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