Sorry about the contradiction I assume when I pressed disable button and it went clear it was disable but I guess not as it doesn't show up as disabled. Tried your method and still don't get them under disabled.
Facebook didn't come loaded I put it on. My question was how to get it to only working when I want it to, don't want it calling home every minute.
Facebook has always been a particularly poorly written app, and in addition to that, Facebook wants its app to always be running on your phone so they purposely have not optimized it. If you are not someone who wants instant notifications from facebook every minute of the day, it really is best to uninstall it and use your phone's web browser to log in just when you want to.
Now you could try an app like Greenify that allows you to "hibernate" apps when you are not using them. For full use of Greenify you'd need root access but you can still manually use it without root. Can't guarantee you how that would work with the facebook app since I never install that app so just saying it's a possibility. If you try it, don't get carried away with hibernating things because you will find it actually eats up more battery even though it's supposed to save battery. Don't have time now to explain why that is here.
As for the apps you are trying to disable, it sounds like you were trying to disable apps that actually don't have that function available. If the Disable button looks "clear" like you said, that means the option is not available and the only way you could disable or uninstall it is to root your phone.