Solved. I used LauncherPro to get to it, install launcher pro from the market (free) long press the home screen go to shortcuts> activities > scroll to CarDock, open. Click on the first line. Now install QuickShortcutMaker form the market (free) now install Moto Home Fix from the market (free) hit the home button, choose MotoBlur now you are back to your home screen. Oen apps go to QuickShortcutMaker and open it. Scroll all the way down until you see CarDock, click on it and there you go. A CarDock Icon that will let you go to it anytime without paying $50.
Now you can either go back to market and uninstall Launcher Pro....OR keep it and use the QuickShortcutMaker to make a Launcher Pro shortcut, go to Launcher pro and use QSM to make a MotoHomeFix Shortcut...now you can toggle between launchers and have CarDock on either one. That's what I chose to do and I love the cusomization options. The landscape homescreen for the car is awesome, the app tray is nice but MotoBlur has 7 homescreens vs the 3 on Launcher Pro. They all work really well together.
EDIT: You have to go to settings>display> and then disable kickstand. for this to work. You can not use the kickstand at all or it will cause the app to not boot properly. But if you do all you have to do is reboot the phone. (turn it off then back on). Also you can use the QuickShortcutMaker to make a shortcut to the kickstand mode as well. I use an OtterBox so the holster is my kickstand. And I also found that you can have up to 7 homescreens on Launcher Pro as well.