After a couple hours comparing the different launchers i settled on ADW. I see alot of potential in the skins and i love all the options available. Esp the "Auto Stretch" which allows a 5x6 grid of icons (esp. on a big 4.3" screen) to be feasible. ADW basically gives you 50% more space on screen than any other launcher i tried. However, i would like to see more options with the home dock.
Unfortunately, i too couldn't get the Quick Contacts widget to work with any of the alternative launchers, they all distorted the picture terribly and were pretty unusable. Too bad, i liked it. The Slideshow widget has also glitched in ADW, but recreating it fixed it and no problems since.
As for the notification bar, that was the first thing i set to hide. I can't believe that in the almost 2 years since android has been out it's not the slightest bit graphically customizable.