looking for a guide to learn how to sign custom roms theme etc etc

[Spork1673]

my googlefu is weak and failed me please help me

 

[pseudoremora]

my googlefu is weak and failed me please help me

I'm going to say it now -- I don't know that you searched hard enough on THIS site -- there information here for the exact topic you're looking for!

Seriously, use the SEARCH function built on THIS site, it'll be much faster.

Here's your help! -- All credit goes to Gbhil for the information in these links.
**How to change icons
http://forum.androidcentral.com/htc-hero-roms-hacks/6070-changing-hero-application-icons.html

**ROM FAQ/Building
http://forum.androidcentral.com/hacking/6037-general-rom-faq.html

Someone on XDA has just started a new thread about ROM customizing as well -- look there, and Modaco's website -- there's information everyone; you just need to learn how to search for it.

I'm not trying to be a jerk, but if you were at XDA, someone would have probably chewed you out for not using "search" by now.