solved it!
ok heres how to do it unless anyone else wants the same answer that i was looking for.
If you use mablio then you need to send the song to your gmail account
when you do this open the email and download the file which will put the song into the downloads folder on your sd card
now either use astro or mount your droid on the computer (easier this way) and create a folder called media
in that folder create another one called audio
and in the folder create another folder called either alarms, ringtones, or notifications.
put your song in whichever folder you want to use it for and WALA!
Since the root names are the same for the sd card and the device memory the phone picks up the media from both root directories so your new song will be in the list when you go to select it from the list!
Thought this would be pretty helpful