Hmmm, I'm not buying it. It appears to me there are lots of folks who were running the stock 2.1 that are now having some pretty major issues. (What would be major issues to me if they were happening on my phone anyway.) And many of them have waited for, then downloaded the "Official OTA". Also, I don't do a lot of web browsing on my DInc so not having the full meal deal on Flash is of little consequence. I use my lap top for such things. (Maybe once in a blue moon I have the need to browse for something on the fly so what I have now works for me.) Also, as for those apps that have been upgraded for 2.2, they seem to be working fine for me on my "old" 2.1 OS. Then there is the issue of Bloatware. It's bad enough to have the City ID but to have to deal with more like it for the sake of some iffy benefits provided by the Froyo update for me is unacceptable.
I use my phone to conduct business as well as personal use so to not have my messaging, calendars, notes and phone all working correctly (which is why I decided to buy the Droid Incredible in the first place) is a matter of simple economics. My work involves solving problems for my clients... I certainly don't need the added burden of such a critical device as my DInc not working as designed to be an issue.
Now, to all those who have chosen to accept the 2.2 update I hope it fulfills your needs and wish you all the best. But to those who are leery of accepting this update, I certainly can understand your reluctance as well. I would not expect everyone to have the same needs in a phone as myself but one thing is undeniable, the forums are currently full of people having issues as a result of this update and more than just a few who wish they had the option to revert back to their ol' 2.1.
With all that said, I too would also like to ask, is there any way to stop getting the System Update message on my DInc until I decide if and when I want it? It's constantly popping up and this update notification is really beginning to get annoying!