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Do you have another cable to try? I take it nothing comes up on your laptop at all?
 
no, and i know its not the cable, i just checked used it on the stock rom and usb worked fine

If the stock firmware works, which I assume you are restoring a backup so setting it back to a point before you had changed anything. Since it only fails to work after you change things I would examine all your steps used to flash the new ROMs. Are you using TiBu to restore anything? After you flash a ROM?