After a long search for rescue from the automatic hearing protection (in a wrong way that drives people like me and you nuts), I finally found Hearing Saver app, which you can set a certain volume level for your media and another one for your ringtone either when you plug or unplug headphones. This would override the manufacture's annoying hearing protection which lower the volume down automatically, even though the warning message still shows. This was actually answered by dannyd86 (thank you for the post) but he didn't give the name of the app but instead gave a link so those who haven't registered for this forum would not be able to see it. I hope this would help you.
You are a hero. I have been pulling my hair trying to fix this problem. THANK YOU!