App updates can be changed in Play store settings. So, open Play, tap the menu button on the upper left (or swipe from the left), click settings, and auto update options should be in there.
As for a system update, You can delay it, but I can't remember how long it delays and how many times it will allow you to delay before auto loading. I think the next update will probably be L anyway, which won't be announced for a couple weeks yet, and rolled out soon after.