I think now that everything is settling down and I'm over the 'can't put it down' stage, its pretty much the same as the Note 10+
I mean battery life is ok but obviously it sucks more juice when using camera and intensive apps. I can get around 7 or 8 hours screen on time but not over a day, I don't spend that much time in a day on my phone but between charges.
I don't think the camera is as sharp as the Note 10+ but there are lots more options/settings, hopefully some updates will help. Generally it's going ok but like you have said, its an incremental update over the last Note.
The buds I do like, they take time to get used to but I put the bigger silicone rings on and when u put them in I twist them slightly and the fit is really good, the shake test does not move them, I shook them until I got a headache and they didn't budge lol.
Although they were free, I would have preferred a colour choice and gone for black, or white to match my phone but I don't mind the bronze but they do shine, I think they should have been matt bronze.
So generally a good experience, no lag and phone doesn't get hot. Still miffed about the inferior Exynos chip, I would get lots more SOT on the Snapdragon 865+ with my usage but it is what it is.