I got my update 2 months ago, and I'm already home. Open Source is a XDA.
What is this "big picture"? Verizon must be doing something right, because everybody I know who is on big red, only says how awesome it is. People not on Verizon are mostly jealous, and openly tell me how crappy xyz company is. Is this not what Verizon want's? Updates are not a big deal to them, because I bet over 90% of the customers with Android phones, have no idea what version they are on, or what ICS is. If I'm Verizon and not doing something only pisses a tiny minority of people off, I'm probably gonna not gonna do it. All companies make this same choice all the time.
Unlock, flash, be happy my friend.