Just an FYI on the gmail settings issues I was having. Not sure how it started but I know how I ended it. Since gmail was pissing me off, I downloaded maildroid and set up my gmail with that. Under the settings there was an option about deleting emails. It was checked leave on server when deleted on phone. I checked it so that both were synced together now. When I delete on the phone, it deletes on the server. Now it seems to be fixed in the native gmail app. Again strange. I'll let you know if this truly fixes it, but nobody really emails me at 2 am!
By the way, why are we forced to view conversation mode on our phones? I HATE it. I'm glad I can view it normally on the computer. Just wish they would fix that on the phone. Glad I did try maildroid. I was using K9 for my comcast mail, but I think I really like maildroid much better, except for the ads.