i figured out how to have vibrate before ring for
text messages. download handcent from the appstore.
do the usual stuff like turn off the native sms messaging so you dont get duplicate message. the handcent faq shows you where to do this.
in your android settings go to sound and display>Notification ringtone select and set to silent, you will be prompted to select which app to use, select handcent.
open handcent properties and go to notification settings then select notification settings again. scroll down to reminders and do the following.
put a check in enable reminders.
next select number of reminders.
next select the reinder interval, i have mine set for 1 min
next select special reminder sound and put a check in the box
and finally select your reminder sound.
this is pretty much what i did, i may be missing a step because i did not write what i did down and i spent a couple of frustrating hours of trial and error

. play with it and if i forgot something please update so that others can have this function.
