As Poseign says... you still have to accept that when you buy technology you have to do your homework, and accept some of the responsibility if things don't work..
You admit that you rushed out and bought the nexus on release day, and therein lies the rub... You (and I'm not attacking YOU, many people do this all the time) had to have the newest, bestest, flashiest, prettiest, thing... If you had waited say 1-2 weeks from release you would have had time to read a number of reviews, see what people in the forums thought about it, gone and played with it yourself, etc. Plus you had 14 days from purchase to decide whether or not it was a keeper for you but still have decided to keep it.
This happens with all tech... its the price people pay for being early adopters. You got to have the thing first, but you surrendered the ability to make an informed product decision. Now I went out and bought the nexus the first weekend it was available as well... but I spent 2-3 days testing it to be sure it handled calls and signals acceptably before I sold my bionic. I happen to live in a good coverage area of NYC so I've been very fortunate with my experience, I love my nexus. Not to mention, at that point I unlocked it, rooted, and started running 4.0.3 and now 4.0.4 ROMs which make it even better..... but that's all besides the point. I ran out and bought it because I wanted a developer phone that was going to be getting a ton of developer support, and by that regard I have made an EXCELLENT investment. If you ran out and bought it wanting ICS and a great working phone... you're priority should have been to make sure you are GETTING a great phone. Most users and sites would have warned you that Samsung just doesn't regularly deliver the best phones.... prettiest, maybe, but their radios are just widely known to be inferior. On top of that.. You signed up to be a tester of ICS when you got the Nexus. Its not supposed to be perfect, but you will get updates to fix some things.
Regarding your first sentence.... Of COURSE the Nexus is not Verizon's priority. MONEY is Verizon's priority. Having the biggest 4G network is Verizon's priority. Having the most customers is Verizon's priority. No single phone will EVER be even close to a priority to Verizon. The Nexus is way more Google's baby than it is Verizon's.... Verizon only ordered it when demand looked to be good enough to make them MONEY. Motorola is Verizon's female dog (lol), so yes the razor is going to appear to receive more attention... but you said that because its gotten a bug fix update and is "on the verge" of getting ICS (which, btw, it still doesn't have) this shows more care from Verizon? I just say that's rubbish. Any updates for any of Verizon's phones go through the same process, whether its the nexus or the razor. And hey, if the razor got ICS today, that's still almost 4 months longer that you have had it.... and believe me, you will have 4.0.4 or 4.0.5 or whatever is the next version to be available for the nexus LONG before the razor gets it. And if you keep this phone long enough, you will get Jellybean or whatever the next version of android is as well... while I bet the razor never sees it. Keep all that in mind.
And again to revisit a previous point because I think it's important... you refuse to accept any responsibility for jumping on new tech on release day then being surprised when it doesn't function as well as you'd like. That kind of expectation will set you up for a lifetime of frustration and disappointment. You want to be an early adopter, that's fine... you do it because its fun and you get new cool stuff and you get bragging rights and stuff to show off..... but you have to be down to earth enough to accept the fact that you're going to get things that don't always work as intended when you have to be an early adopter... that is the trade-off. That's the price you pay for your bragging rights. That's life. If you don't like it, practice some restraint and wait a week after the next new piece of tech is out, do your homework, and make a more informed decision.
EPILOGUE (lol): Enjoying a rational, mature discussion here... hope you don't take anything I said as a personal attack. I'm down to keep chatting about it, just don't want you to think I'm just picking on you or anyone