Whats the best rom?

There is no "best ROM". It's all what you want out of the ROM. If you're going to keep the phone at stock clockspeeds you'll probably want to use an Aphrodite ROM.
 
i dont know what that means, i just want one that wont f up the stock features and looks like gingerbread
 
i dont know what that means, i just want one that wont f up the stock features and looks like gingerbread
Then you should stay stock and download a gingerbread theme from the market. ALL of the gingerbread roms have problems with MMS (sending and/or receiving picture messages) You should probably rename this thread with more specific title.